I think from time to time about the discrepancies between the way we experience ourselves (as only we can) and the way others must view us. How different an answer we'd get if we were to ask those that know us to varying degrees, to tell us what they see.
I guessed that if I were to ask my social media friends and followers for a word or two to describe me, or give me their impression of me, it would be very different from what I would say about myself. What would strike someone instantly upon meeting me, or spending time with me? Would most people give a superficial answer? Who sees deeper?
I was right that the answers were different than what I expected. I was shocked to end up with a giant list of words (full list below). What a variety! It was incredible to see what words I got multiples of. To see what those multiples were. Coming in at the top with four each were: Driven, Inspiring, Lovely, Talented. In second place with three each were: Ambitious, Beautiful, Effervescent, Funny, Hilarious, Kind, Loving, Magical, Unicorn.
It's also an interesting experiment to see if we come across to others the way we think we do or hope we might. Of those top thirteen words above, guess how many would have been on my own list, were I the one making it? Four. Only four of them. One of the words in the top thirteen, I'm not sure I've ever really even liked. I appreciate everyone who took the time to comment, so I chose not to use names, or specify words.
As for my feelings on the master list, they are mixed. Let me start off by saying it's good. It's wonderful, really. To have this incredible reference of uplifting words from others. It's mind blowing. But there are definitely a couple of words that make me cringe. Make me wonder where in the world someone would come up with that! Words that don't ring true to me. Others surprise me. Some take my breath away. Some make me feel as though I could never live up to what people in my world seem to think I am.
In the end, most aren't what I would have chosen. One of my top three words I'd use for myself doesn't even appear anywhere on the list! But boy, I'd never be able to come up with a list anywhere near this long. It's unbelievable.
I was nervous to ask. The only way to do the experiment was to be a the guinea pig. I felt vulnerable and was afraid of coming off as narcissistic. "Tell me what you think of me!" So I didn't specify. I didn't ask for positive comments only. But I didn't get a mean one. Not really. It's all there, I left nothing out.
I walk away having learned a lot from this experiment.:
~Others definitely do see you differently than you see yourself.
~They might even see more in you than you can.
~You realize your shortcomings much more than those around you.
~People are generally kinder and more observant than you might expect.
~I placed unfair limits on what the outcome would be, expecting superficial answers.
~I was blown away by how deep and descriptive everyone was. (There were less labels, more description.)
~Maybe I am more than the handful of words I would have picked for myself.
~We are all more beautiful and powerful than we think we are.
~We all impact, effect, and inspire each other.
~Tell each other the good. We all need to hear it. If we don't how we will ever know?
For all of the surprises that came from this, one thing was solidified that means everything. To me, the biggest compliment of all is when someone tells me I've inspired them. It's the biggest compliment I can ever give to another person. It's the essential essence of life. Inspiration. To have that word listed in the very top…wow. It's what I would hope for. It's what I strive for. I thank you. Deeply.
What a humbling, learning experience!
Thank you, everyone who participated. You helped me learn a little more about myself, and others.
So now, I dare you to try it! Let yourself be surprised! Mull it over. Who are you? Who are you to others? Most importantly, what does it teach you?
Thank you for reading and participating, let me know how your experiment goes!
(I was going to alphabetize, but I got lazy)
A wholly brilliant person
A positive energy to be in touch with the universe
Got it all
Inner Beauty Shines Out
Lover of Animals
Nicer than I heard
One of UsPoised
Prettier than initially thought (inside, not outside only)
Present. You seen to live in the moment & seize opportunities - whether they be to laugh or cry or admire or perform.
Ray of Sunshine
Really Pretty Skin
Talented in so many areas it's disgusting
Talented in so many areas it's disgusting
Wow, she sparkles
Thank you for reading,